Low self esteem????

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I spoke with a client this week who was experiencing low self esteem, they made the simple comment “don’t we all suffer from self esteem issues from time to time?”

What do you think? I know I have been known to have a drop in my self esteem from time to time - this has been less the older I have become but every now and then it hits me - and it’s a shock.

I work on myself as much as I can by having conversations, reading books and articles and listening to podcasts that feed my constant need to grow and develop. Which is why when I feel a total lack of self esteem I am shocked, but it can creep up if I don’t look after my mental health well enough.

I want to invite you to do a little exercise to boost your self esteem - you don’t have to be lacking in self esteem to do this, it’s a nice little task to keep you on track.

Firstly, grab a pen and some paper, and sit where you won’t be disturbed. Then take some deep breaths and write down a list of everything you are proud of in your life.

Nothing is too small (or big) - take no more than 5 minutes on this.

Now I want you to read it back, and see how that feels. Then I want you to save that paper and read it regularly, and then add to it when you do something that makes you feel pride about yourself.

Why am I suggesting this as a good self esteem booster? Firstly, you can see how comfortable, or uncomfortable you are with being invites to do this as a task - what thoughts come up for you? You’re reading this so have an interest in self development or mental health, so what thoughts do you have?
Pay attention to those - the more we can connect with how we feel about things, the more we can learn about ourselves and our values. Then I would pay attention to the list itself, and what’s on there, also what you wanted to add but maybe were reluctant, and what you did add but think maybe shouldn’t be there. I want you to dive deep into why. Sit with whatever comes up.

I was asked to do this exercise in a workshop titled “I am remarkable” - and we were asked to say to the group “I am remarkable because -” twice. Once for my business and once for just me. It was easy to say what I have done in work that makes me remarkable, really easy. But to say aloud to a group of strangers what made me remarkable in my personal life…. I wanted to say my children, but that wasn’t allowed - it had to be me about me.

How do you feel doing this? I’d love to know! Let me know via Instagram - here.